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Christmas Pajamas and Milk with Mommy Lifestyle photography Session by Brooke Tucker Photography

Oh my goodness ya’ll, my heart has been just bursting at the seams to share with you this adorable holiday christmas pajama, milk and mommy lifestyle session that I shot several weeks ago!  Megan and her boys are some of the absolute sweetest people in the whole wide world and I couldn’t have been more excited when we came up with this fun idea for an in home laid back morning session.  We wanted to capture the boys as they are right now and I think that’s exactly what we got, but I will let you guys be the judge!

I came over that morning and the boys were already all decked out in their holiday jammie best!  Megan had the coffee ready, which is of course my favorite (other than coca-cola and panera green tea) and we talked over exactly what we had planned to do!  We gathered up a few of the boys favorite holiday books and I made Megan change into her best jams and I met them in her incredible bedroom!  I wish I could tell you that it was perfectly calm and relaxed, but honestly I would be lying!  With two boys (as sweet as they are) and two glasses full of milk, you know they were ready for some entertainment and of course entertainment I provide!  I guess I should have warned Megan about that!  When I come to a session, I come prepared to play and I mean play!  We talked about all the Christmas magic, we jumped on the bed, we had tickle fights and I made the best boy noises I could possibly muster!  Megan joined in on the fun too!  We had a blast and it was a morning I will never forget.

I think that’s the best part about making connections as a mom and being a photographer and a mom!  When I see the connections through my lens of other mommas and their little ones it’s just indescribable for me!  I know just exactly how precious and how timeless these seconds and minutes are.  I know how these moments when these mamas see them reflected back to them no matter what they actually look like on the back of the camera or on the computer screen or even in print, I know what they look like and feel like in these mamas hearts!  They are enduring and they speak of something that just can’t be spoken but felt in a place that stirs within our souls!  It’s magical and it’s powerful and it’s emotional all wrapped up into this one tiny gut feeling!  I feel that too when I’m behind that lens clicking away!  It’s why to me, those perfect moments don’t matter so much as those moments that are raw and real and joyful!

Megan and Hudson and Nolan laughed a lot the morning of our session!  They laughed and the read together.  They fought a little as brothers do but they also helped one another and snuggled with each other.  They shared secrets together and built water slides and forts together!  They kissed their mom a lot and asked a million questions!  They shared a normal morning together as far as they knew, the only difference is now Megan has these moments frozen in time to visit any time she wants!

Thank you Megan and your sweet boys for letting me spend the morning playing with you in your best holiday jammies!

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And last but not least… one of my absolute favorites from the morning, one I was seriously lucky to catch as I was putting my gear away…

Christmas Pajamas and Milk with Mommy Lifestyle photography Session by Brooke Tucker Photography

It makes me laugh every single time!

 

Happy Monday afternoon Friends and Mother’s!  Happy Motherhood Monday!

How is your Monday going so far?!  I have to admit that I didn’t get myself together this morning.  I did… in one sense.  I was a mama, a good one!  I got up and I had my coffee (which was spilt all over the couch and the floor by the way) and I spent the morning with my boys before the big one had to go off to work!  I played trains with my little one in which spidey took over the train and blasted it off to the North Pole where it did goodness knows what!  I made a somewhat healthy breakfast before it was “goldfish time” and yes there is in fact a goldfish time in our house!  I try to hold off because I don’t want to believe that goldfish is a breakfast food, but goodness my 4 year old loves those little fish crackers and he would eat them all day long if I let him, morning noon and night!I guess what I’m trying to say is that this morning I rocked the motherhood world!  We went to the park, we ate a great lunch and I feel good about where I stand on the motherhood front!  That means though… that I did not do so well on the business side of things, which is why I”m just now sitting down at 1:30 pm to write this blog post that I probably should have written yesterday but I didn’t because I wanted to take some time just for myself!  I wanted to take care of me for a little bit and guess what:  I don’t feel the least bit bad about that!That brings me here:  What are we doing as mother’s for ourselves this season to keep us balanced?  

This is something that as mother’s I think we truly struggle with, taking time for ourselves, to take care of ourselves!  We all know it’s important to take care of ourselves so that we can better take care of others.  We’ve heard that statement probably a million times.  Heck, I think we’ve even said it ourselves a million times; but that’s just it… saying it and actually putting it into practice are two entirely different things.  It’s hard to take time for ourselves!  Some days there just doesn’t seem like enough time in the day to get everything checked off the “to do” list let alone set aside time for personal care.  The days seem to fly right by without warning.  Yet, we know at the end of the day when our heads hit the pillow that we should have carved out just five minutes to do something just for us because we can feel that feeling creeping in.  You know the one I’m talking about, that feeling of exhaustion or burn out or even lack of patience with those around us.  At least that’s what happens to me when I don’t carve out time.  I find that I start snapping at my son.  I am quick tempered and my patience is the first thing to go!

This is why we need each other mamas!  This is why finding yourself a tribe of moms that you can count on to surround you and lift you up is so important!  We need to remind each other to do the things we need to do to stay on top of our game and one of those things is taking care of ourselves!

So what are some of things things that we can do this season when things are going to become so wonderfully and beautifully hectic to stay grounded?

I posed this question on my instagram this morning (give me a follow if you want to keep up with one crazy mama livin in Disney with a wild climbing boy, living barefoot and keepin it real drinking panera green tea all day every day) and I already received some wonderful comments!  If you are on instagram you should absolutely check it out because these are some amazing mamas that are coming together to form a mom tribe of support and community, something we all need!

Here are some of the things that I’m hoping to do this season in both life and business!

  • Wake up earlier!  I know that probably sounds a bit crazy because we are already early risers in this house, but I love the early morning hours when the house is quiet and calm!  I love that I can make some coffee and savor it before the wildness begins!  These are the moments that I want to spend just with my thoughts!  I want to sit out on my porch and some mornings have quiet time with my bible preparing for the day ahead of me.  I think on other mornings I might just sit with my pen and my notebook and free write a little to help stir up some creativity and challenge myself and push my boundaries.  Who knows, other mornings I might just sit in the stillness and breathe!
  • Sunday’s are my days!  This is a little selfish of me and I’m a little torn on this one!  I did this yesterday and it was hard for me not to feel guilty but it also felt sooo good ya’ll!  I spent yesterday shooting a sunrise session which in my favorite time to shoot!  I came home and I spent the rest of the day folding laundry, listening to some long overdue education seminars that I had purchased over a year ago and then binging on the Gilmore Girls Revival at my girlfriends house next door and scarfing down pizza!  I neglected to blog because I just needed the break!  I took time for me and took a moment to reflect on what I wanted my Sunday’s to look like from here on out.  I want my Sunday’s to be free of expectations.  I want to take those days as they come. I know I need to prep for the week so Tuck and I discussed having the ability to take a few hours on our upstairs balcony and just getting the weekly chores done:  pre-blogging, meal prepping, grocery shop ordering (yes I know), and list making!  The rest of the day is ours to do what we wish!
  • Mornings with Linc:  My mornings are just for Linc!  Linc is in afternoon preschool which means my mornings are just for him!  This is something I chose a while back but writing it down just makes it set in stone!  I will not touch my computer or my phone unless I absolutely have to because I am one hundred percent engaged and attentive to my son!  In a world where social media is king, I want to make sure my son knows he has my undivided attention!
  • Work hours on Monday, Weds & Friday: Setting up designated working hours means that I can also have time to be a wife and a friend and run my household!  I want to be able to do other things while I build my business!  This also leaves me some time while Linc is at school to take care of myself and set up appointments to do things like that without having to worry about a babysitter!
  • Personal Projects:  I am a creative and one things that fulfills me is being creative!  One of the most important things I have learned this year is that I can’t just focus on what I feel like I’m “supposed” to be doing!  I have to take the time to do personal projects and moving has allowed me the time to do just that!  I am better when I am pushing my own boundaries and doing things that excite me without putting pressure on me!
  • Not worrying about “the perfect holiday gift”: I stress over this big time to the point where I won’t sleep for weeks.  I realized that honestly there is no one perfect gift.  There are lots of wonderful gifts but spending time together, that’s the best gift.  I realized that just putting your heart into a gift, that’s what counts.  I don’t worry so much about that anymore and just try to focus on the experience of things!  People remember experiences not things!

What are some of the things that you are doing to take care of yourself during this holiday season???

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Photo credit goes to the always amazing and talented Elizabeth Friske of Elizabeth Friske Photography in Virginia Beach!  Linc was so little there compared to how he is now!  I miss those days!

 

This season, I am currently learning how to practice patience:  patience and grace!  Right now, in the children and family lifestyle photography business world,  this would be one of the busiest times of the year!  It’s Holiday portrait season and this is probably one of my most favorite times!  This is where I (usually) would be getting the chance to connect with all of my lifetime clients and catch up with them to see how they’ve been throughout the year!  I would get to play with all my little clients and remark on how much they’ve grown and how much their interests have changed and their likes and dislikes!  I would be tromping through many different locations and having so much fun on adventures with all my different families playing swamp monster, peek a boo monster or even floor monster!  I would be designing holiday cards and dressing up pretty packages with all the lovely wrapping paper and ribbon I could find from Home Goods! But today, today I’m practicing patience!

But this year things are very different!  Our family made a very big, and wonderful decision for us and moved to a little town that we call home now here in Florida!  While it’s been amazing for us as a family; and also for us as individuals too… it’s been hard for me as a small business owner.  I have to be honest with myself about that.  I was nervous about that before we left Virginia Beach, but not enough I think to be truthful with myself.  I don’t think I really thought about it much because there was so much to do and I was thinking about all the other great things we were gaining!

Now that we are here and all tucked in and thriving and loving it… I think it’s time for me to give myself permission to say:  it’s hard to starting your business over again in a new state.  There’s a part of me that feels like I had really started doing what I always wanted to do in Virginia Beach!  I had really started to find my people and my tribe!  I had really started to become that “lifetime photographer” for some truly amazing families that were more than just clients.  They were truly friends and an extension of my family!  There is this feeling of man… now it’s just gone and it was just starting to really happen!  There’s also this deep, deep fear of am I ever going to be able to gain that same kind of trust with families here, the same way that I was trusted by my families back in Virginia Beach?!  Because that was something so incredibly special.  I mean that was down right magical!

You see… these are the kind of thoughts that can make a girl spiral out, but they happen!  They are human and when I was talking to Tuck today in the car I realized that I need to give myself permission to feel these feelings as ugly and unproductive as they are!

I also need to give myself a little bit of grace and a little bit of faith and trust!  It’s been 6 months since we moved to Celebration and really that’s not a whole lot of time in our tiny little town!  Most of our town is away for the summer or takes a break from photography because it’s just so darn hot!  Summer would have usually been my busiest season but down here, I learned it will be my “off” season, especially because I’m a children and family photographer.  Tuck and I realized that this would be an amazing opportunity for me to go back home for a bit and work with my beloved families in Virginia Beach!

I also realized I need to practice some more patience.  I really could use more patience in my life all around!  This is something personally I could work on forever and ever!

Six months is nothing in terms of business life, especially when I haven’t been doing anything differently!  I have made friends and made connections and tried my old approach:  what I used to do back in VB where I grew up and knew a ton of people.  Here, while that’s great and it is a small community, I need to realize it’s going to take more than just word of mouth!

It’s going to take hustle, a lot of patience, and also continuing to build up my brand with my blog, personal projects to keep my skills up and some sessions that are for me and my portfolio!

I think the biggest thing I’m realizing as I start this new kind of hustle is that I”m not really starting over… I’m just starting where I left off but in a new chapter!

It’s important always to remember that great adventures take time!  I don’t want this to be just a page or just a small chapter in my journey.  I want it to be a great adventure!

Great adventures also need to have permission to fail!  They have ups and downs!  There always has to be a bit of a conflict in order for there to be triumph~

If you ever have to start over in a new place, or you find yourself stuck somewhere in your business…. just remember these three things:

  1.  Give yourself Permission to feel how you are feeling!  It’s OK to not feel OK about the situation.  It’s OK to feel scared or sad or worried or even not know where to go or what to do!  As long as you can feel it and then decide to DO something about it and move forward!
  2. Give yourself grace:  Allow yourself to feel how you felt without blame.  Own whatever situation you are in and do it without beating yourself UP!  YOU ARE HUMAN!  We make mistakes.  We also pick ourselves back up and we learn from them!
  3. Make a plan!  Move forward!  If you want this dream of yours, you have to figure out how to get it!  Do what you need to do to, pick yourself back up and then make a plan to go after it!  Remember:  Peter Pan couldn’t fly without Tinkerbell’s Pixie Dust!  We all need a little help because we can’t do it all on our own.  When we get the help we need though, we find our Neverland!

Hoping to get back on my plan today friends  When I figure out exactly what that is, I will share it with you!

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